Trucelyn Falejo

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Dear Myself,

Before anything else, Inhale and exhale. Lately, I know you are wandering and stress on things that you don't have control. I'm going to remind you of a few things.

I know it is not easy what you are going through as a daughter, as a sister, as a fiance, and as a friend (and also some issues of life). We've been down lately, and we know why but please stop overthinking about it. Don't let these issues and problems bring you down and take away your inner peace.

Don't beat up yourself too much to the point that you tear me. Be courageous, strong and appreciate yourself if not who else?

You are a lot stronger than you realized. You changed a lot. Appreciate it. You improved. You did well. You selflessly give your time, efforts and even your all to help others which made me proud of you. You didn't think that you are above others and the truth is you don't have the confidence to try new things and you easily give up when you heard negatives that what you did is wrong. I know it is hard but hey, cheer up! Looking back to the old us 6 months ago, we are the newest version of ourselves. Stop being so hard on us it will just hurt us. Let go of all the expectations.

Hey, one more thing! Stop focusing on those people who think you as a competitor and take you for granted. No offense but let them be, whatever they said, let them say it. Don't take it personally. Don't let them take your inner peace and self-worth. Whatever negative things you hear | read lead them to pass by on your both ears. When you are hurt, try to understand their reasons maybe they didn't know what they are doing. Continue forgiving them freely. (Matthew 6:12) Rather, think of the people who loved you the most, those who encouraged you, who sees you, who lifted you and who count you as a blessing. REMEMBER Jehovah loves you genuinely.

Think out of the box. Help those who need help either a friend, a family or a stranger. Be selfless, not selfish. Inspire others by your kindness and your smile.

What is happening maybe not what we both expect but think this as our training ground to train ourselves to be better so we can face difficult circumstances. Give Jehovah reason to bless you.

Lastly, have some sleep and eat well. okay?

I love you. And Jehovah is bigger than our hearts.

August 09, 2019 No comments

Spontaneously, my friends and I watched a movie called "Hello, Love, Goodbye". It is my first time watching Alden Richard's movie and I'm curious about this movie since I watched an interview with Kath that she undergo difficult training. I was like? "What is this movie all about?"

So here is my thought about the movie.

~~DISCLAIMER: THIS IS ONLY MY THOUGHTS AND NOT A SPOILER.~~

CREDIT: ABS CBN

HELLO

We all meet different people every day, some will pass by without saying hello and others will stay for a while after saying hello.

Hello is always the beginning of a good conversation with a stranger or meeting someone from the past. I experienced talking and sharing stories with strangers. Have you? HAHA. Funny but yeah, sharing stories with a stranger is indeed good. No judgments because after you talked they will forget it because you don't know each other well and they don't know the people you are talking about just like saying Hello to a stranger, they will forget you because you are not the only person who said hello but some stay for knowing what kind of person you are. Joy meets a stranger where she shared her stories and pour her heart. Good job! The acting is what I expected though it is not heavy as the house of us and she well portrayed the character of a DH who always busy multi-tasking, fast-moving and fighting for life (in Hongkong).

LOVE

There are more than 1 love stories in the movie and it comes from past, present, and future. Love is powerful, it can make someone miserable or it can change someone's life either eros or storge (kind of love). Because of love we sacrificed and give more yet, there's an emptiness in our heart that we would like to fill one day. We sacrificed because of the people we loved but sometimes it is not enough that we still need to leave our own wants or happiness behind. Day by day we feel like our efforts and sacrifices are like a hamster in a wheel but we don't mind it since we know why we are doing it. Is part of the sacrifices are the people who once said hello and give us joy in our eyes? Are we ready to embrace someone while inside of us there's an empty hole? Are we have to take a chance even though we already know that in the end, we know we will lose?

Watch the movie! It is so nice! It will question your sacrifices.

goodbye

Every hello we said there will always a goodbye whether we like it or not. It is painful to say goodbye but we have too, even on the person who thought us a lesson or help us to reach our goals. We have to say goodbye to enable us to find a happy hello not just to the people we meet but also to a person in front of a mirror. We also have to say goodbye to the people who we cherished and the loved ones, also to the things that tires us. It is not easy to say goodbye but we have to.

When life lets you choose one is it "work, family responsibilities, or love" what are you going to choose?

The movie is far from Alden and Kath's previous movies. It is a roller-coaster ride, not just a romantic-comedy but "iyak-tawa" (cry and laugh) of a normal Filipino domestic helper who is also a breadwinner suffering, risking her life and trying to complete her family.

This movie shot me 3 times of painful scenes that a normal Filipino citizen struggles on a daily basis to provide for their family while joggling to manage a love life. HAHAHA

CREDIT: ABS CBN

This is already long and I will not make it longer. The bottom line of a movie is PROMISE with HOPE. Yes, hoping until the end we watched the entire remarks but...just like a movie...

naaahhh. watch it!

Please bring a tissue. HAHAHA

August 02, 2019 No comments

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July 26, 2019 No comments

Hello to all bride-to-be out there.

How are you? How are your wedding preparations? Is everything okay?

For some, wedding preparations as easy as you are just planning for a trip and on the other hand, it can be hard as if you are going to migrate to another country and stay there for the good.

If you ask me, it is both. I'm excited and at the same time getting anxious and nervous especially that I am in an interracial relationship. Also, our wedding will be held in the US. It is hard because as much as I wanted to be hands-on preparing for this, I have to let other people (that I haven't met) help us. Well, they are friends of my fiance so I have to trust them the way my fiance trusts them.

The challenging part of preparing the wedding is cultural differences. He was raised differently to how I was raised. We are doing something that they don't do there or another way around. Then, he looks at the wedding set up, the number of guests and so on differently to how I imagine it. But one thing we both agreed is to make it simple and between on our budget.

Sometimes we went through serious discussions and frustrations because of the things that sometimes we don't have control. I know all those who get married experienced this.

Sometimes, I told my fiance to just marry in a private hall with witnesses. HAHAHA So we can avoid this stress. And of course, he didn't agree! HAHA

How we resolve the differences?

Give and Take

Because we have our own wants to what our wedding set up will be, we decided to give and take. We rewrite our wedding plan (we have this wedding plan a year ahead), discussed it, give each other space and free will do decide how it should be done, let one decide about it, let suggestions be heard while the other is open-minded for changes, and divide the responsibilities.

Meet in the middle

Because we are different nationalities who grew up in a different background choosing this and that is really challenging. But we have to meet in the middle not just one person will reach the other person. We never think that only one sacrifices and make an effort. Both of us contribute and make adjustments. Doing this, we enjoy talking about the wedding.

canvas photos

One belief, One faith

One thing that I am so thankful is that we have the same belief which both of us follow bible principles about the wedding. We focused on what is really important. I know that making the guest happy matter, but pleasing our God is what matters the most and that it is our wedding so our feelings matter too. We also apply the bible principle to "be patient, kind, respectful and does not look for its own interest ", "that our love bears all things, believes all things, hope all things and endures all things." (1 Corinthians 13:4-8) Because of this, we have less stress and arguments.

Be practical

Having friends who wanted to give a helping hand is a huge help to the budget. We seek also for help. True friends will not have a second thought to help. Also, do research where we can buy cheaper materials or anything we need. We shouldn't cross on our budget just because it looks amazing. We keep in mind that our wedding is just one day so as not to spend a thousand dollars, but our life after the wedding is forever. So better to make it simple and practical.

Give yourselves a rest

Oh dear, give your day a rest day from wedding plans. Rest and enjoy. He often told me to have a break and go out and so I can free my mind. It helps and made me feel recharge.

canva photos

Relax and enjoy it.

one of our unforgettable moments

I know we still have a long road to finishing this wedding plans but I am so grateful that my love never let me stress all the way. Early to conclude but we both motivated to follow this.

I hope these pieces help you also to plan your wedding. If I missed something let me know. Or if you have suggestions/offer feel free to send me a message to the email below.

Thanks for reading. If you like it or you know someone who's getting married, feel free to share this!

Have a great day!

email: trucefalejo@gmail.com

July 22, 2019 No comments

In Today's generation, people are getting smarter and very creative in their work or branding. Everyone keeps on growing and, learning and learning. Sometimes, they even imitate the person/s who inspires them to reach more and improve themselves.

I am one of those people. I don't know what I want to be before I start blogging. I don't know my niche and to be honest, this blog has done so many name changes, edit here, edit there. There also came to my point of asking myself "maybe this isn't for me" or "maybe I'm just "COPYING SOMEONE ELSE" and that I don't like what I am doing?"

Then, one day, I woke up knowing what I want to be and what I want to do. I keep on studying and learning including getting inspiration to thousands of bloggers around the world.

But how, how in this broad and abundant world of technology, am I be able to be original and not be someone else carbon copy? We all don't want to be accused of plagiarism. So, is it possible?

Of course, it is and it is not.

First and foremost, the only thing that doesn't have a copy in this world is our fingerprint and ears. TAKE NOTE OF THAT! Ok?

But it is also possible to be different from anyone else and that is your personality, how you talk about your story, your character, your style and your heart on your work. Remember, we might have a similar idea but our dedication and mind will have its uniqueness.

Bloggers have their uniqueness, different characters they showed, the flavors they offer, their niche even the tools that they are using are different. There may be thousands of coffee, but your cup of coffee is different from my cup of coffee. The flavor, the aroma of how I make it is different from yours.

If you find out that someone is copying your cup of coffee, stop, take a deep breath, think first, why not study their character? Maybe you have similarities but not a carbon copy. People know the steps of growing as you do. If you assume that they might get your idea, then "put" copyright on your idea or watermark, but if you think you might be their inspiration to their work, smile and be happy that you affect them and become part of their growth. Is it amazing knowing that someone sees us as their exemplary?

But if you see that they are your carbon copy, better to confront them first than fussing about them in your sites, talking to them will help them to grow as an individual. If they don't listen, you can do the necessary action.

Even if there are thousands of bloggers around the globe, your cup of coffee will standout how you want it to offer even it is still a coffee.

Offer your heart and your best character. Remember also that your kind and humble soul is the best aroma to offer your cup of coffee. Don't be afraid to learn how to brew a coffee and don't feel the pressure that you don't know how to make a coffee, learn and be smart.

If you are having a hard time making your cup of coffee, finding your niche, your flavor and your uniqueness. Pause for a second, meditate, study, think and ask yourself "in this world what can I offer?", and take your time.

Take your time. You'll get there. I'm getting there too. Let's give a hand for growth.

Well, what can you say to my cup of coffee? or maybe you want some tea?

July 19, 2019 No comments

Before you read this article, I want to say that,

"Smile, choose to be happy and true happiness is coming on your way."

Today I will share the story of my engagement. Are you ready?

Here I go...

To be honest, I have a feeling that Jeff will break this most awaited question that every girl dreamed of. I don't want to be a moment breaker of my own, but I can't help myself to keep asking Jeff a question. I even told him not to do any proposal since we already start planning. I told him to just hand me the ring and that's it! Sort of, I don't want surprises (not all) but I don't want surprises that I am not prepared. HAHAHA

I'm in mixed feelings like excited, try to make things organized, and I want to know everything that may affect me at the same time I'm very nervous.

Yes, I'm excited that Jeff will propose but I'm more nervous how it will end, and how my parents will react.

The moment of TRUTH + mixed emotions

So, a few months ago, I made this vacation itinerary of Jeff, so we will not miss anything. But he asked me to put a blank or ‘free’ day to relax. Wednesday we are talking about the family dinner (we set this few months ago) then he told me that we had to move it on Friday but we still go on SM to do groceries. It was Friday morning when he asked me to go outside and buy something. I suspected that he will talk to mom but not for proposing. Supposed to be the dinner will be at our house when my sister asked me to bring the groceries to my eldest sister's house. I was like "why? we agreed here" then they just said that there's more space there. And then she asked me to wear nice.

I don't like what is going on because I can’t organize this. What is going on? (hahaha organizing the proposal for me? seriously? bad Truce). So, I'm nervous and not in the mood already. My niece asked me a few days ago to company her to buy her skincare since the dinner is at 7 pm, Jeff and I companied her. Jeff is a bit weird because he keeps on asking me what to buy or if I wanted to go somewhere but all I want is to go home and sleep. He forced me to do a manicure. And after that, we go straight ahead to my sister's house.

My suspicious ego become low seeing that my sister's house is no mark for a surprise or something. And so, I dropped the idea that Jeff will pop the question. I saw Jeff sleeping so I sleep too to my niece bedroom. When I woke up Jeff asked me to go home and change.

Me: Change clothes for what?

Jeff: we will buy pizza.

Me: pizza? what's with the pizza? that we have to change clothes?

Well, no arguments. I just followed him, but I didn't change my clothes, I waited for him at my sister's store. Surprisingly, he was wearing red and formal! I was annoyed and asked him why he was on that, what's going on? My sister confronted me to stay calm and just let him be. Then my eldest sister texted me who will come. I was fussing to Jeff who he invited then he grabs my phone and never let me use it again. He keeps on telling me to relax.

I let things go to whatever will happen. I just what to be happy. If he pops the question, then it goes. We went to Greenwich to buy some pizza. Here's the not so good mood changer. A friend of mine gives me a call that he wants to talk to me. And on our way home I was thinking about what that friend was going to tell me. I saw him in front of my eldest sister's house. He talked to me about a certain issue. I became more serious and nervous. The idea of the proposal was not in my head anymore.

Then, my sister came to say that dinner is ready. Entering the garden, I saw the table full of food. It is funny because I am not looking for Jeff knowing he is just around. Then my sister asked me to help her to move the laundry stand. You know what? I saw Jeff's foot! HAHAHA

Jeff walks towards me, then I froze. He came, kneeled and pop the question. That moment, all I did is crying. Then he held my hand. And asked me “BABY, WILL YOU MARRY ME?” I say "Of course!" He hugged and carried me. That moment...I heard nothing but my heartbeat, and his heartbeat. I realized that I'm also waited for this for a long time, to end the LDR and be with him. After a few minutes, I looked back and see everyone happy and in tears.

And a normal gathering and congratulations come right after. I was happy seeing my family and friends, and my fiancé.

And that's it! I'm happy, excited and nervous (always) to get married and be married. And this man is my everything!

Lesson: Let the moment goes and be afraid if things will not go according to you and being too organized to the things you can't control is not good at all. Be happy and enjoy the moment.

July 18, 2019 No comments

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